Five Gems for 2025

We’re sharing our favorites for those who may not have the time or inclination to listen for 35 minutes to a show that aired on New Year’s Eve morning. Credit to Philip Galanes, Jancee Dunn, Daniel Jones and Melissa Kirsch of the New York Times for their soothing conversation and these wonderful ideas:

  • Instead of making punishing, joyless resolutions, consider joyful resolutions! For example, instead of resolving to eat zero cookies per week, seek out the best cookie you can possibly find at the best bakery and eat two of those in a week. Lace your resolutions with joy and they might not feel like drudgery – which might actually help you meet your goals. 
  • Make 2025 the year of listening. Less talking, more listening. Laysha Ward shares more on this idea in a 2024 lesson. We can all, always, benefit from working to become better listeners. 
  • Relatedly, listening is at the heart of giving good advice. Try listening so that you become “almost the same person” as the one asking for input … think of their issue as your shared issue. The best advice, given only when asked for, helps people hear the “truth” that is already deep within them.
  • Feeling lonely? Reach out to a mentor from your past. Somebody who maybe doesn’t even know how much they helped or influenced you. Maybe it’s a boss, a teacher, a coach or a neighbor. The connection you make might surprise and fulfill you in unexpected ways. 
  • Take 15 minutes every day to collect moments of moral beauty, a concept created by renowned psychology professor and author Dacher Keltner. Moral beauty refers to the moments of awe, kindness, courage, wisdom, and humility that characterize our very best human moments. If you’re losing faith in the world, discouraged by politics or just generally feeling blah, try paying attention to the moments of kindness all around you. A smile in the checkout lane, a wave to merge on the freeway, a friendly hello from a stranger…notice the things that remind you of the inherent goodness in people. Make it second nature to see and appreciate these moments. 

We’d love to hear your wisdom for 2025. What ideas are you putting into action to bring more kindness, calm, or joy into your life this year?

10 Wishes For Communication In 2024

But even with a shared proclivity toward list-making, we are a bit overwhelmed by the number and nature of year-end lists, including Literary Hub’s Ultimate Best Books of 2023, and The New York Public Library Best Books of 2023, as well as The New York Times Best TV Episodes of 2023Rolling Stone’s 100 Best Songs of 2023Billboard’s 50 Best Albums of 2023TIME Magazine’s 200 Best Inventions of 2023Entertainment Weekly’s Celebrities Who Died in 2023Google’s List of Top Search Terms in 2023The 16 Most Important Social Media Trends for 2024, – and amazingly, a browsable index of yearend lists of music, movies, books, poetry and podcasts. And these only skim the surface.

While lists can be an efficient way to organize and communicate a lot of information quickly, a list is most useful if it reveals a trend or a truth, helps us clarify and solve a problem, or motivates us to act. With careful consideration of these three benefits – and building on the “44 Things We’ve Learned as Accidental Consultants”– we humbly offer our Top 10 Wishes for Communication in 2024.

We hope:

  1. …leaders in organizations of all sizes appreciate and prioritize effective communication as a cultural linchpin and strategic discipline.
  2. …words are carefully chosen to unify, support, and inspire – not to divide.
  3. …information is routinely delivered with authenticity and appropriate transparency.
  4. …both audiences and messengers increasingly recognize and respect the difference between the person and their perspective.
  5. …all of us learn to truly value listening as a foundational element of healthy debate and well-intentioned dialogue. To listen and offer space to be heard fulfills a basic human need that has the power to not only drive business results but deepen connection between and among us. 
  6. …content in our news feeds is grounded in facts and truth, and sources are held accountable.
  7. …strong organizational purpose and core values reliably drive good decision-making and active stakeholder engagement. 
  8. …channels of communication (email, meetings, intranets, internets, etc.) are clear and compelling, designed with the end user in mind.
  9. …new ways of communicating, like AI, are thoughtfully explored and considered before adoption. 
  10. …leaders understand and show compassion to employees for the emotional impact caused by the ongoing challenges of our world. 

With intense motivation and resolve to effect positive change, these are the wishes we are working to fulfill, in partnership with clients old and new, in 2024.

44 Things We’ve Learned As Accidental Consultants

Collaboration

1.    Two minds are better than one – and good collaboration makes every task more fun. (We intuitively knew this, but these past eight years have been proof positive.)

2.    Our decision, from Day One, to treat each other as trusted, 50/50 partners has delivered more benefits than ever imagined.  

3.    Staying connected to people you admire and respect buoys your spirits and sparks new ideas. Plus, they advocate for your business and may even become clients.

4.    When you ask others for help, be specific. They are almost always willing to help when they know what you need. 

5.    Every networking opportunity provides something useful if you’re open to the possibilities. 

6.    Leadership doesn’t go away when you aren’t managing a team. There are plenty of opportunities to mentor and coach – and be mentored and coached – as consultants.

7.    Engaging professionals you trust to fill in where you lack expertise allows you to focus on what you do best.

8.    Showing gratitude to the people who help you grow your business – and paying it forward by helping others – makes work more fulfilling. 

Performance

9.    Even for small consultancies, purpose, values and strategy development is foundational; it was one of the first things we did.

10. For serial list-makers and box-checkers, nothing is more satisfying – or useful – than a well-organized business plan to guide day-to-day and long-term progress. (For a little added fun, we occasionally change font colors and formatting!)

11. Setting deadlines – even for the little things – is important; it encourages, motivates, and sometimes shames us to act and get shit done!

12. Knowing how we’re spending our time allows us to understand our productivity and how to estimate future work. (Tip: Toggl time-tracking software)

13. Remembering that clients are paying for our expertise, not just our time,  helps us set the right fee structure. 

14. Things always take longer than expected!

15. Designating “free days” and “buffer days” keeps us from making every day a “work” day. 

16. The key to success is not self-promotion; it’s truly understanding the client’s need, so you can deliver the right solution. 

17. Thinking about excellence as a mindset, rather than as an outcome, drives continuous improvement. 

18. Good communication is fundamental to business success.

19. Inflexibility is a surefire way to lose business; adapting to every client’s expectations, environment and needs is consulting table stakes.

20. When you run your own business, you are the brand. No amount of marketing can gloss over character – or the quality of your products and services. 

21. Marketing can present a cobbler’s children dilemma. Client needs come first. (i.e., why it’s taken us 8 years to publish our learnings!)

22. The excitement of signing a new client and diving into research and discovery never gets old. 

23. On the flip side, working with clients over time builds trust and institutional knowledge that are mutually beneficial.

Resilience

24. Sometimes choosing the scariest path is exactly what you need to grow. 

25. When you believe you can, you avoid the wasted time and energy of worrying you can’t. 

26. By accepting that not every suggestion to a client will be a winner, you can keep offering ideas that are in their best interest.

27. Sometimes you just have to start a project, even when you’re fairly sure you have no idea what to do. 

28. Being obsessively curious about your audience and owning your space and expertise can reduce anxiety in new situations. A coach with Broadway experience once told us, “Acting is not “acting,” it’s “authentic empowerment.”

29. People don’t always respond – or follow through. C’est la vie. 

30. Knowing what clients think via periodic blind surveys helps us get better.  

31. When client feedback isn’t glowing, we learn from it, and then focus on doing more of what earned us the feedback that was glowing. 

32. Getting comfortable with things as they are will ultimately get uncomfortable. 

33. Knowing that some days as a consultant are frustrating and boring, and others are energizing and productive is a solid reason to just roll with it and avoid unrealistic expectations.  

Balance & Self-Care 

34. Being in business for yourself means navigating the continuous yin and yang – strategy and execution, discipline and innovation, speed and quality, data and intuition, business development and client service.

35. Acting with urgency to demonstrate value goes hand in hand with being patient and gracious. 

36. Consulting is inherently hybrid – we have come to love balancing home office time with client office time and coffee shop time.

37. Going for a walk or riding your bike can be work time, just as analyzing a client challenge can be fun.

38. Learning new sectors, industries and organizations is energizing – and a reminder that communication is essential in every environment.

39. Levity and laughter work wonders. Staying close to the ones who make us laugh is part of what has made eight years fly by!

40. When you sit at the computer without moving for too long, you might as well be smoking cigarettes. Motion is lotion for your joints. 

41. Eliminating the 9-to-5 mindset and working when you’re most productive is a luxury of being self-employed … but it only works if you balance it with discipline. 

42. Scheduling vacations and closing the virtual office around major holidays can be hard to do when revenue rests on your shoulders. But those shoulders need a break. 

43. When there are only two people to do everything required for the business (and only one of them is good at math), there is a ton of variety – and a bit of tedium. 

44. We all know what no one says on their death bed, so we’re mindful that career success is just one part of our total well-being.

We’re eagerly anticipating the next 44 lessons as we launch our 9th year as 44 Degrees North Partners!